I am satisfied with my life in general, have a good career, supportive spouse and family. We have been happily married for 6 years now so kids seems like the next logical step but we don't want that commitment. Would we regret this decision in the future?
Choosing not to have kids
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This. You will regret it.
There is something deeply unnatural and perverse about those who LACK the desire to have children. At a basic biological level, it’s about perpetuation of your genes - a most natural affection.
My wife and I both regret not having children.
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Do you like having the freedom to do what you want whenever you want? If so then yes potentially.
Doesn't having kids actually impede one's freedom. So, if OP enjoys doing whatever they want whenever they want, they would NOT regret choosing to remain child-less.
in most instances your logic would be correct. but this is ejmr, the land of many trolls who try to get into your head. please, ignore them.
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Discipline = Freedom.
Do you like having the freedom to do what you want whenever you want? If so then yes potentially.
Doesn't having kids actually impede one's freedom. So, if OP enjoys doing whatever they want whenever they want, they would NOT regret choosing to remain child-less.
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Kids are expensive and I am not sure if their companionship is worth the cost. Sure, you will have sweet memories but as they grow up, they become bratty teenagers and then they leave home to live their lives. You are going to be alone after 18 years anyways so after 18 years you and your friends will be leading the same lives expect you will be richer!
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I'm three years away from tenure at a top 50 dept and can only even contemplate kids post tenure. Even then, I find my peers who have just had kids are miserable all the time and their productivity has definitely dipped.
Yeah, once I'm dead and buried, and I'm at the pearly gates, all that really matters is how many papers I've written.
Productivity. LOL. Just LOL.
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This. You will regret it.
There is something deeply unnatural and perverse about those who LACK the desire to have children. At a basic biological level, it’s about perpetuation of your genes - a most natural affection.My wife and I both regret not having children.
what if your genes aren't worthy enough passing on?
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No doubt kids makes one's life less flexible. But they are also a source of great joy and help staying grounded. Besides, many, but not all, academics I know who chose not to have kids are pretty self-centered, self-satisfying borderline narcissistic people. I always wondered if having children could have dampened this type of behavior.
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I don't think having kids is going to help your miserable soul at the pearly gates.
I will be so much richer than those who have kids and that will provide me with no stress and will probably live longer.
I'm three years away from tenure at a top 50 dept and can only even contemplate kids post tenure. Even then, I find my peers who have just had kids are miserable all the time and their productivity has definitely dipped.
Yeah, once I'm dead and buried, and I'm at the pearly gates, all that really matters is how many papers I've written.
Productivity. LOL. Just LOL. -
gawd you're clueless.
Kids are expensive and I am not sure if their companionship is worth the cost. Sure, you will have sweet memories but as they grow up, they become bratty teenagers and then they leave home to live their lives. You are going to be alone after 18 years anyways so after 18 years you and your friends will be leading the same lives expect you will be richer!