Pay someone to date her, then catch them.
Divorce
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Anybody out there just decide to go the open marriage route in lieu of divorcing? Just stay together for the sake of the kids but pursue other romantic interests?
I did this, with mixed results. I would tend to say it was a bad idea overall and cost me a lot of money. Here goes.
Got dumped by wife. Convinced her to try open marriage before giving up, but not tell each other anything, ever. Hooked up with dozens of girls over the next six months. She confessed after six months that she hadn't had a single affair. I assume because she realized the grass wasn't really greener elsewhere. I lied about my body count being zero to keep it even. She talked about getting properly together again, but we didn't make a decision. I fell in love with a stunning younger woman, more strongly than ever before. I dumped my wife. She made it seem like I was a cheater and she had the moral high ground. She got a ton of money from me during the divorce. I married the new girl. I'm happier than before, but also a lot poorer. Should have just quit when she dumped me, but I couldn't let go yet. It was an expensive experiment.
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My empathy for your having married such a monster. What is wrong with her?
did you get custody?
My wife dumped me a few months after kid #2 was born. Then she tried to exclude me from their lives -- went to great effort. She actually told someone during the process that she had never been into having a mate, just wanted kids and a source of child support.
She was *stunned* when the court would not agree to exclude me from their lives and even more stunned when she could not turn them against me (although it really screwed up their childhoods).
She has been alone ever since. Probably what she really wanted.
No, but I got to see the kids. Her proposal was that I have no role in their lives, just pay child support. She found a lawyer willing to make that proposal, and the judge laughed her out of the court.
She did not even claim I was somehow unfit; she claimed it would be too "confusing" for them to have a father on the scene who did not live with them. -
Then the whole bus clapped
Anybody out there just decide to go the open marriage route in lieu of divorcing? Just stay together for the sake of the kids but pursue other romantic interests?
I did this, with mixed results. I would tend to say it was a bad idea overall and cost me a lot of money. Here goes.
Got dumped by wife. Convinced her to try open marriage before giving up, but not tell each other anything, ever. Hooked up with dozens of girls over the next six months. She confessed after six months that she hadn't had a single affair. I assume because she realized the grass wasn't really greener elsewhere. I lied about my body count being zero to keep it even. She talked about getting properly together again, but we didn't make a decision. I fell in love with a stunning younger woman, more strongly than ever before. I dumped my wife. She made it seem like I was a cheater and she had the moral high ground. She got a ton of money from me during the divorce. I married the new girl. I'm happier than before, but also a lot poorer. Should have just quit when she dumped me, but I couldn't let go yet. It was an expensive experiment. -
I know that statistically speaking women initiate it. Did any of you initiate? How long did you approach the talk?
I want to break the news to my wife. Have prepared for kids to be with relatives and us to discuss the topic. My worry is that she will go nuts. I want out. It’s been years since I decided that I really wanted out. Kept posting for the older kid to start college but got a younger one at home and I don’t see how posting will help anyone…
Please don’t give advice on working this out because it’s broken beyond repair. I don’t see myself with this woman in 1 year let alone in 20. She’s just sucking my life and energy out of me. Suggestions welcome.Did you break the news to your wife? How did she react?