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• Thread: 30 Goods vs 11 No Goods

1. Economist
   ca7b
   

   I am an Asian phd student and I am more than willing to get to know people during a conference.
   But I kinda feel stressed when I am the ethinic minority of the people in the conference room. It is not because that I lack the confidence to speak in public and my feeling is quite complex.

   I am worried about being unwelcome because people might prefer talking to a stranger either from the same country or of the same ethnicity. I think some even may presume that I am incapable of speaking frequently judging by my skin color.

   Do you have advice for me on how I can socialize at a conference? like what I can do to make myself appear more relatable and friendly.....

   6 months ago # QUOTE 1 Volod 5 Vlad !

2. Economist
   c140
   

   I don't think anybody cares about ethnicity. I sure don't.

   6 months ago # QUOTE 8 Volod 0 Vlad !

3. Economist
   9914
   

   get drunk grab em by the puuhzy

   6 months ago # QUOTE 5 Volod 0 Vlad !

4. Economist
   ca7b
   

   That is a relief. Thank you

   I don't think anybody cares about ethnicity. I sure don't.

   6 months ago # QUOTE 0 Volod 0 Vlad !

5. Economist
   5455
   

   Just directly go to talk with the one u r interested. U r junior so some tiny improper behavior might be ignored. Most scholars are not that mean like ejmr ppl.

   6 months ago # QUOTE 1 Volod 0 Vlad !

6. Economist
   765f
   

   Honestly, just go for it. No one cares.

   6 months ago # QUOTE 1 Volod 0 Vlad !

7. Economist
   ca7b
   

   If a group of westerns are chatting, how will they feel if an asian pop up and join their conversation?

   6 months ago # QUOTE 0 Volod 0 Vlad !

8. Economist
   e93f
   

   I am always happy when a random person talks to me at conferences.

   6 months ago # QUOTE 3 Volod 0 Vlad !

9. Economist
   8695
   

   offer to bring the bigshots a drink and tell them how much you admire their research.

   6 months ago # QUOTE 0 Volod 1 Vlad !

10. Economist
    6554
    

    I approach anyone the same way and on the same topic, in the same subfield.

    I have noticed a pattern -- people working on more Dei stuff as far as I know usually have a more impersonal vibe to my approach compared to people who do not work on Dei related stuff. This is also within the same subfield.

    Do what you will with this info, OP, but I am not kidding I assure you.

    - fellow asian bro

    6 months ago # QUOTE 1 Volod 1 Vlad !

11. Economist
    83ef
    

    It is boring to observe a crowd approaching some big shots; such a strategic "social interaction" is funny.

    6 months ago # QUOTE 1 Volod 0 Vlad !

12. Economist
    db38
    

    This reminds me of a girl in my cohort.. “I’m a Korean woman so I feel like it’s more difficult for me to make friends”. Lol

    6 months ago # QUOTE 4 Volod 0 Vlad !

13. Economist
    09db
    

    Have you considered, OP, that you might be a mentally ill lib\\sh\\it?

    6 months ago # QUOTE 0 Volod 1 Vlad !

14. Economist
    8695
    

    spill your beer on a keynote speaker

    6 months ago # QUOTE 0 Volod 0 Vlad !

15. Economist
    ca7b
    

    Maybe many ppl do not care. I think it may has something to do with the stereotype that we experienced. like when people look around for help, we would always be the last group they speak to, only if they do not have other options.

    This reminds me of a girl in my cohort.. “I’m a Korean woman so I feel like it’s more difficult for me to make friends”. Lol

    6 months ago # QUOTE 0 Volod 0 Vlad !

16. Economist
    4c51
    

    Maybe many ppl do not care. I think it may has something to do with the stereotype that we experienced. like when people look around for help, we would always be the last group they speak to, only if they do not have other options.

    This reminds me of a girl in my cohort.. “I’m a Korean woman so I feel like it’s more difficult for me to make friends”. Lol
    

    are you kidding... most phd cohorts are guys and they flock to talk to qt asian girls. Asian guys don't have the same privilege but I'm sure people don't avoid them either.

    6 months ago # QUOTE 0 Volod 0 Vlad !

17. Economist
    bd01
    

    Another advice is if you do end up talking to someone and you form a professional connection to never turn it into a personal one.

    6 months ago # QUOTE 2 Volod 0 Vlad !

18. Economist
    ca7b
    

    I do not think ppl avoid asians deliberately. And I am just wondering whether the perceived language proficiency and the appearance may play a role in the decision people make on whom they choose to talk to first if they have a choice. It is hard for an asian guy to leave an impression to others unless he is well-known or he has a strong vibe.

    Maybe many ppl do not care. I think it may has something to do with the stereotype that we experienced. like when people look around for help, we would always be the last group they speak to, only if they do not have other options.

    This reminds me of a girl in my cohort.. “I’m a Korean woman so I feel like it’s more difficult for me to make friends”. Lol
    

    are you kidding... most phd cohorts are guys and they flock to talk to qt asian girls. Asian guys don't have the same privilege but I'm sure people don't avoid them either.

    6 months ago # QUOTE 0 Volod 0 Vlad !

19. Economist
    ca7b
    

    I am asking about maybe the subconsciousness the existence of which I am not sure of. If the majority does not have one, that is really a relief for me. I may have to work on my own for ice breaking. But even if there is one, I think it is still understandable so I want to know how I can socialize better as an asian.

    Maybe many ppl do not care. I think it may has something to do with the stereotype that we experienced. like when people look around for help, we would always be the last group they speak to, only if they do not have other options.

    This reminds me of a girl in my cohort.. “I’m a Korean woman so I feel like it’s more difficult for me to make friends”. Lol
    

    are you kidding... most phd cohorts are guys and they flock to talk to qt asian girls. Asian guys don't have the same privilege but I'm sure people don't avoid them either.

    6 months ago # QUOTE 0 Volod 0 Vlad !

20. Economist
    1ce7
    

    OP, I really think most people in the profession don't care about cultural stereotypes. Plus, the few westerners who think they're too cool for Asians are people no one would want to spend a second with. At any rate, the most important thing in life is to be yourself.

    A white and western colleague.

    6 months ago # QUOTE 1 Volod 0 Vlad !

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