Why do so many end up staying? To me this is simply revealed preferences vs. stated preferences.
This.
Reading some of the posts, it may seem that the evil dutch first marketed themselves so well that someone who was thinking of moving to the US ended up moving to the Netherlands instead. Then, as soon as he stepped out of the airport, got surrounded by tall blond dutch who pushed him around. For fieck sake, the Americans constantly fake friendliness because they want your tip, the Dutch don't. If you don't like it, nobody forces you to stay there. It's as if one moved to Germany and then complained that the Germans eat too many sausages and drink to many beers. Or if I moved to France and than complained that the sound of the French language is unbearable.