Quit your whining. Your struggle is nothing compared to what African Americans have had to endure over the past few centuries. It's quite embarassing and shameful you're requesting sympathy and condolence in a time when black men are literally being murdered in cold blood on the streets. I agree with what you said about the dating game, it's true that Asians get a bad deal in dating but I can tell that you're referring to white women in particular. Asian men seem to fetishize white women as the highest prize in dating; they are not the be-all and end all. Try to expand your horizons into other women... maybe black women or latina women or even indian women and you will probably have a better shot. Otherwise your so-called trials and tribulations aren't particularly serious. Sorry to break it to you, but there are far more exigent problems in the US today with regards to race.
Lost all motivation as an Asian American male
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The perks of being an Asian in America is that you have the option to go to Asia, where the future is, before Uncle Sam goes to toilet.
I am from India lol, there's no future there.
There's a country with GDP per capita higher than the U.S., and with professional Indians at the top of every industry.
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There's always someone that's more screwed over.
If you're Korean/Chinese-American, think about how much worse it is for an Indian-American that only has a sh1th0le of a country to return to.
If you're Indian-American, think of how much worse it is for a southern redneck that is equally discriminated against by elite American society, but has no country to return to.
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Quit your whining. Your struggle is nothing compared to what African Americans have had to endure over the past few centuries. It's quite embarassing and shameful you're requesting sympathy and condolence in a time when black men are literally being murdered in cold blood on the streets. I agree with what you said about the dating game, it's true that Asians get a bad deal in dating but I can tell that you're referring to white women in particular. Asian men seem to fetishize white women as the highest prize in dating; they are not the be-all and end all. Try to expand your horizons into other women... maybe black women or latina women or even indian women and you will probably have a better shot. Otherwise your so-called trials and tribulations aren't particularly serious. Sorry to break it to you, but there are far more exigent problems in the US today with regards to race.
what are you talking about. men are willing to take any woman they get. dating apps have made it so that women only want the top 5% of guys, who are all mostly white.
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Most men of all races have trouble in the dating market. It's an imbalanced market that disproportionately rewards the few "catches" at the top, and leaves little for everyone else.
It's an ultra competitive market influenced by many factors outside of your control (e.g. height, face). But there are factors within your control as well - body probably being the most important.
It's a general observation that more Asia bros tend to have a defeatist attitude - especially in regard to dating white women.
Yes, race is a factor, but other factors are arguably more important (e.g. body, height, personality). I know Asia bros who have great luck dating attractive white women - and some of the bros don't check all of the boxes when it comes to height/body/face.
What's really important is confidence and perseverance. Defeatist attitude will lead to a self-fulfilling prophesy, but those who try at it and improve themselves eventually succeed.
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Most men of all races have trouble in the dating market. It's an imbalanced market that disproportionately rewards the few "catches" at the top, and leaves little for everyone else.
It's an ultra competitive market influenced by many factors outside of your control (e.g. height, face). But there are factors within your control as well - body probably being the most important.
It's a general observation that more Asia bros tend to have a defeatist attitude - especially in regard to dating white women.
Yes, race is a factor, but other factors are arguably more important (e.g. body, height, personality). I know Asia bros who have great luck dating attractive white women - and some of the bros don't check all of the boxes when it comes to height/body/face.
What's really important is confidence and perseverance. Defeatist attitude will lead to a self-fulfilling prophesy, but those who try at it and improve themselves eventually succeed.Good luck getting an attractive white woman if you're under 6' or dont have a defined jawline
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trouble in the dating market is significant for an azn bro in the U.S., but it's become increasingly difficult for all men who are not in hte top 10%. Dating apps show 50% of likes go to 15% of men, and if you're bottom half you are basically fighting over the bottom 20% of women.
Our great social crisis is that many men will have no wife and no family. A huge underclass with no stake in society. It's a great tragedy, and fatal to our nation.
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Multiculturalism makes everyone miserable. Really, the world would be much better if the mass migration over the last half century didn't happen. Some people benefited from this, but most of us are paying the price (like OP, thanks to his parents/grandparents not thinking this far ahead, as well as the heritage Americans who have to deal with frustrated outsiders griping and can't just do their own thing). Feeling fortunate to be in a country not affected too much by this, but it's hard to watch.
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Our great social crisis is that many men will have no wife and no family. A huge underclass with no stake in society. It's a great tragedy, and fatal to our nation.
Is this really true? If there is one-to-one matching (which reflects somewhat of reality in monogamous socities, women who don't/can't be matched with top X percentile men should naturally go down a notch. Also from observations, it seems like women are much more likely to compromise on looks than men are.
I think you read to much into the "alpha pickup" redditors universe and just ignore all data points that show otherwise. Everywhere I look, be bars, clubs, or vacation destinations, I see mismatches where the men look at least 1 - 3 down a notch in terms of looks than their women counterpart.
I have to admit that dating apps are probably the worst if you are not good looking male. Not a good tool if you want to find a mate. In real life, women will be a lot more willing to compromise vs. just dating apps that just show pictures of you. Trust me.
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It’s worse than this. Women are also getting less attractive (mostly weight gain but also less feminine), which gives the few remaining eligible women even more attention from top men. Men outside the top 10% should look outside of America for a girlfriend/wife.
trouble in the dating market is significant for an azn bro in the U.S., but it's become increasingly difficult for all men who are not in hte top 10%. Dating apps show 50% of likes go to 15% of men, and if you're bottom half you are basically fighting over the bottom 20% of women.
Our great social crisis is that many men will have no wife and no family. A huge underclass with no stake in society. It's a great tragedy, and fatal to our nation. -
Our great social crisis is that many men will have no wife and no family. A huge underclass with no stake in society. It's a great tragedy, and fatal to our nation.
Is this really true? If there is one-to-one matching (which reflects somewhat of reality in monogamous socities, women who don't/can't be matched with top X percentile men should naturally go down a notch. Also from observations, it seems like women are much more likely to compromise on looks than men are.
I think you read to much into the "alpha pickup" redditors universe and just ignore all data points that show otherwise. Everywhere I look, be bars, clubs, or vacation destinations, I see mismatches where the men look at least 1 - 3 down a notch in terms of looks than their women counterpart.
I have to admit that dating apps are probably the worst if you are not good looking male. Not a good tool if you want to find a mate. In real life, women will be a lot more willing to compromise vs. just dating apps that just show pictures of you. Trust me.Absolutely true. Over a third of families led by single mothers. Significant declines in marriage rates.
Women would rather be the side piece a high status man, than marry a low status man. This is how humans were before the institution of marriage. Chieftan/Sultan/Bigman has a harem, while the below avg man dies alone.
Who are all the high school educated men going to marry? Women have a strong desire to 'marry up.' The higher educational/professional attainment women have, the smaller their dating pool. The low status men are all playing video games and then OD'ing on opiods.