Head-twerking and writing a tardstack for 133 subscribers is really the only thing left for 30yr old white males.
The Incentives to Work Hard for Single Men Are Rapidly Diminishing
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This is only true if you are very physically attractive and can pull off the independent bad boy vibe. If an average attractiveness man takes this approach he is treated as an undersocialized weird0 by women.
If you are a man who wants to be with a woman you need to care about how women react.
You have it exactly backwards, my son.
This is true. The key to success in dating is actually not caring about the outcome or how the women react or think. If you can achieve this (which is akin to enlightenment), you'll be God-mode in the dating market.
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This is only true if you are very physically attractive and can pull off the independent bad boy vibe. If an average attractiveness man takes this approach he is treated as an undersocialized weird0 by women.
If you are a man who wants to be with a woman you need to care about how women react.
You have it exactly backwards, my son.
This is true. The key to success in dating is actually not caring about the outcome or how the women react or think. If you can achieve this (which is akin to enlightenment), you'll be God-mode in the dating market.
Totally false.
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Kids: you waste your time on dates that aren't going anywhere.
Exchange pleasantries at the end of your tinder-matched coffee date, if she's not into it, split the bill and leave. Don't ever look her up or think about her again.
You're going to go through this several dozen times before someone completely different takes your breathe away. Steel yourself in the meantime.This is true. Can attest. Have had so many Tinder, Bumble and Hinge dates that went nowhere. Would not be able to recall any of their names if I saw them in public. Just move onto the next one till it clicks.
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"Confidence" is largely a proxy for looks. If an unattractive guy acts confidently he is perceived as arr0gant and de1usional with a lack of self-awareness. If a very attractive guy lacks confidence he is often perceived as "cute and mysterious".
Women can sense confidence and insecurity.
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you keep writing the same thing over and over again
"Confidence" is largely a proxy for looks. If an unattractive guy acts confidently he is perceived as arr0gant and de1usional with a lack of self-awareness. If a very attractive guy lacks confidence he is often perceived as "cute and mysterious".
Women can sense confidence and insecurity.
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If you are a man who wants to be with a woman you need to care about how women react.
You have it exactly backwards, my son.
This is true. The key to success in dating is actually not caring about the outcome or how the women react or think. If you can achieve this (which is akin to enlightenment), you'll be God-mode in the dating market.
women ha/te clingy desperate guys who try too hard.
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Kids: you waste your time on dates that aren't going anywhere.
Exchange pleasantries at the end of your tinder-matched coffee date, if she's not into it, split the bill and leave. Don't ever look her up or think about her again.
You're going to go through this several dozen times before someone completely different takes your breathe away. Steel yourself in the meantime.This is true. Can attest. Have had so many Tinder, Bumble and Hinge dates that went nowhere. Would not be able to recall any of their names if I saw them in public. Just move onto the next one till it clicks.
How can one simply "move on to the next one" when it is extremely difficult to get any dates?
I am 38. I have been on less than 10 first dates in my life. Only one of the dates turned into a second date.
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Looksmaxxing is what you should be doing not credentialmaxxing
basically, once the constraints on women were lifted, they just went for attractive dudes.
I think it’s even worse than that: they want dark triad types
a mistake we all hope to recover from at some point in our dating careers
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Kids: you waste your time on dates that aren't going anywhere.
Exchange pleasantries at the end of your tinder-matched coffee date, if she's not into it, split the bill and leave. Don't ever look her up or think about her again.
You're going to go through this several dozen times before someone completely different takes your breathe away. Steel yourself in the meantime.This is true. Can attest. Have had so many Tinder, Bumble and Hinge dates that went nowhere. Would not be able to recall any of their names if I saw them in public. Just move onto the next one till it clicks.
How can one simply "move on to the next one" when it is extremely difficult to get any dates?
I am 38. I have been on less than 10 first dates in my life. Only one of the dates turned into a second date.Lower your standards
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My working theory is that most of the complaints from dudes like OP stem from misaligned standards and expectations. They want a “hot” woman but are not “hot” themselves.
I’m above average in looks and way above average in height (I’m 6’7”). Before I got married I was mostly broke, most of the time, but I smashed a lot. A lot. A LOT.
How?
I’m tall, and I basically had no standards. If a woman showed any interest in me, I just said yes.
Were there some “hot” women in the mix? Sure. But it’s a numbers game. Most women, just like most people, were average. But everybody has something attractive about them.
I took some advice from my dad. After my mom passed, he never wanted to get married again, but got with a lot of women. Some of them were very “interesting” looking. He told me, just find one thing you find attractive and focus on that. Her ears. Her left pinkie toe. Her laugh. He said, “we’re men, we can find any excuse to get it up.” He was right.
I’ve met a few inc3ls (I was a SWE before I went to academia) and nearly all of them are less attractive and much shorter than me. And nearly all of them have much higher standards than I ever did. Just widen your nets, fellas. It’s the secret us happy guys don’t tell you. We have all slept with unattractive women. It’s fine (and fun!).
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Kids: you waste your time on dates that aren't going anywhere.
Exchange pleasantries at the end of your tinder-matched coffee date, if she's not into it, split the bill and leave. Don't ever look her up or think about her again.
You're going to go through this several dozen times before someone completely different takes your breathe away. Steel yourself in the meantime.This is true. Can attest. Have had so many Tinder, Bumble and Hinge dates that went nowhere. Would not be able to recall any of their names if I saw them in public. Just move onto the next one till it clicks.
How can one simply "move on to the next one" when it is extremely difficult to get any dates?
I am 38. I have been on less than 10 first dates in my life. Only one of the dates turned into a second date.Lower your standards
They were already as low as can be, believe me.
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my goodness, this forum is hitting new lows every day.
My working theory is that most of the complaints from dudes like OP stem from misaligned standards and expectations. They want a “hot” woman but are not “hot” themselves.
I’m above average in looks and way above average in height (I’m 6’7”). Before I got married I was mostly broke, most of the time, but I smashed a lot. A lot. A LOT.
How?
I’m tall, and I basically had no standards. If a woman showed any interest in me, I just said yes.
Were there some “hot” women in the mix? Sure. But it’s a numbers game. Most women, just like most people, were average. But everybody has something attractive about them.
I took some advice from my dad. After my mom passed, he never wanted to get married again, but got with a lot of women. Some of them were very “interesting” looking. He told me, just find one thing you find attractive and focus on that. Her ears. Her left pinkie toe. Her laugh. He said, “we’re men, we can find any excuse to get it up.” He was right.
I’ve met a few inc3ls (I was a SWE before I went to academia) and nearly all of them are less attractive and much shorter than me. And nearly all of them have much higher standards than I ever did. Just widen your nets, fellas. It’s the secret us happy guys don’t tell you. We have all slept with unattractive women. It’s fine (and fun!).