Just do it.
- Nike
Too much sexual tension with colleague
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Thanks, this helps me understand the mentality. I think I’m also into intelligence to a very high degree. I find the guy fascinating.
Do you have personal experience with this? Is it a stable equilibrium for us to just flirt and not actually do anything physical? I don’t want to lead him on or hurt him in any way, but I do feel an obligation to not touch him, no matter how much that tortures me.
I don't know you, as a male, I know my score is ~4. Maybe because we males get too many rejections and direct feedback and it helps us calibrate our internal attractiveness measure.
I would prefer you (I guess you are around 6) instead of hot undergrads. It is relatively safer (the high cost of drama will deter scandals if things go south) and also I am usually attracted to intelligence, and it is a jackpot if intelligence and hotness get together.How would I accurately perceive this?
Definitely not that hot because I have 2 kids. But, I do have a pretty good shape given that.
I have no idea why the guy would prefer me over, say, undergrad students who are young and hot.
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Yeah, I’ve been doing this. In fact things have been pretty ha.wt at home. It feels wrong when I think about it, but you are right that it works.
Is it a bad idea to suggest this tip to the guy, too? I think it could help him, but it’s also a bit weird to discuss and could make him feel jealous of my husband. I think I could suggest it in a funny way so as to make it not awkward.
Translate it into your spousal sacks duh
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Haha I’m not in the dark over his enjoyment of our flirtatious interactions. I think the registry would only be helpful for those who can’t read social cues.
If you're from CUHK, there is a central registry to express your interest. Every few weeks they open the book and clear the market for s-x-ally frustrated academics.
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Thanks, easier said than done. I agree this is the best route, though. I think you are right that I don’t see the day to day struggle with this person.
limit interactions with your colleague
keep topics impersonal
set up a nice date or vacation with your husband
there will always be temptations but remember that you don't actually know what this man will be like -
Thanks, this helps me understand the mentality. I think I’m also into intelligence to a very high degree. I find the guy fascinating.
Do you have personal experience with this? Is it a stable equilibrium for us to just flirt and not actually do anything physical? I don’t want to lead him on or hurt him in any way, but I do feel an obligation to not touch him, no matter how much that tortures me.No, it is not stable. Stop flirting so much or soon your brain will start finding reasons to resent your spouse.
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My 2 cents is it would unstable, especially from the guy's perspective. When I was in my early 20s I could love from distance, flirting could satisfy me. But in my 30s I feel an extreme urge to take a connection/vibe/flirt to bed. I guess men need to get more "physical" as they get older. So, I am sure females are more contained in flirts and rarely pass limits. But for guys, it is always imminent to go off-limits and do something insane.
Thanks, this helps me understand the mentality. I think I’m also into intelligence to a very high degree. I find the guy fascinating.
Do you have personal experience with this? Is it a stable equilibrium for us to just flirt and not actually do anything physical? I don’t want to lead him on or hurt him in any way, but I do feel an obligation to not touch him, no matter how much that tortures me. -
Okay that’s really helpful to understand!
My 2 cents is it would unstable, especially from the guy's perspective. When I was in my early 20s I could love from distance, flirting could satisfy me. But in my 30s I feel an extreme urge to take a connection/vibe/flirt to bed. I guess men need to get more "physical" as they get older. So, I am sure females are more contained in flirts and rarely pass limits. But for guys, it is always imminent to go off-limits and do something insane.
Thanks, this helps me understand the mentality. I think I’m also into intelligence to a very high degree. I find the guy fascinating.
Do you have personal experience with this? Is it a stable equilibrium for us to just flirt and not actually do anything physical? I don’t want to lead him on or hurt him in any way, but I do feel an obligation to not touch him, no matter how much that tortures me.
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Not sure about this. I think I’ve been resenting my husband a bit less recently. I think perhaps it’s because I care a bit less about my husband’s constant criticism. My husband is a hugely negative person who complains about me constantly, and it used to make me feel insecure and anxious all the time. I felt like I could never do anything right, and bad habits were harder to break because of the overly harsh environment.
Now, I guess I just care a bit less what he thinks… that’s not really a bad thing.
Thanks, this helps me understand the mentality. I think I’m also into intelligence to a very high degree. I find the guy fascinating.
Do you have personal experience with this? Is it a stable equilibrium for us to just flirt and not actually do anything physical? I don’t want to lead him on or hurt him in any way, but I do feel an obligation to not touch him, no matter how much that tortures me.No, it is not stable. Stop flirting so much or soon your brain will start finding reasons to resent your spouse.
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Not sure about this. I think I’ve been resenting my husband a bit less recently. I think perhaps it’s because I care a bit less about my husband’s constant criticism. My husband is a hugely negative person who complains about me constantly, and it used to make me feel insecure and anxious all the time. I felt like I could never do anything right, and bad habits were harder to break because of the overly harsh environment.
Now, I guess I just care a bit less what he thinks… that’s not really a bad thing.Thanks, this helps me understand the mentality. I think I’m also into intelligence to a very high degree. I find the guy fascinating.
Do you have personal experience with this? Is it a stable equilibrium for us to just flirt and not actually do anything physical? I don’t want to lead him on or hurt him in any way, but I do feel an obligation to not touch him, no matter how much that tortures me.No, it is not stable. Stop flirting so much or soon your brain will start finding reasons to resent your spouse.
Big red flag…
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Big red flag how?
Not sure about this. I think I’ve been resenting my husband a bit less recently. I think perhaps it’s because I care a bit less about my husband’s constant criticism. My husband is a hugely negative person who complains about me constantly, and it used to make me feel insecure and anxious all the time. I felt like I could never do anything right, and bad habits were harder to break because of the overly harsh environment.
Now, I guess I just care a bit less what he thinks… that’s not really a bad thing.Thanks, this helps me understand the mentality. I think I’m also into intelligence to a very high degree. I find the guy fascinating.
Do you have personal experience with this? Is it a stable equilibrium for us to just flirt and not actually do anything physical? I don’t want to lead him on or hurt him in any way, but I do feel an obligation to not touch him, no matter how much that tortures me.No, it is not stable. Stop flirting so much or soon your brain will start finding reasons to resent your spouse.
Big red flag…