OP = main character in Confederacy of Dunces.
Unpopular opinion | Family duty distracting you from work is a choice!
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People with kids get all kinds of breaks and privileges. And the worst part is that many parents offload their child care duties to other people while pretending to be "exhausted". They're so an.no.ying and fa.ke..
In time you'll learn, kid. I've done military and it was a lot easier than kids. You won't get it now. Meaning you won't get how most people live btw.
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Yeah, when conceiving, people usually assume there's a good chance there's going to be a worldwide natural disaster that shuts down schools and family support systems in their kids' childhood years.
No one chose to have kids be out of school during a pandemic.
no one chooses to hear his/her kid cry. no one chooses to hear his/her kid complain. no one chooses to have a sick kid. etc. Those are things that come with having a kid.
Including school closing for natural disasters, like covid.
Look I get it. But in the end, it is a choice YOU made and you need to deal with it.
Another unpopular opinion.
"Faculty without kids" should not be expected to do more service than "faculty with kids", like taking the seminar speaker or job market candidate out for dinner because "faculty with kids" has to go to his kids' soccer practice. That is unless "faculty without kids" volunteers to help "faculty with kids".I've never heard of a department that does this. In my department, the people with kids tend to be mid career and pull way more weight than the deadwood and the young faculty (who complain that they shouldn't have to do anything until they get tenure).
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go away, mor.on.
People with kids get all kinds of breaks and privileges. And the worst part is that many parents offload their child care duties to other people while pretending to be "exhausted". They're so an.no.ying and fa.ke..
In time you'll learn, kid. I've done military and it was a lot easier than kids. You won't get it now. Meaning you won't get how most people live btw.
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People with kids are making a lot of effort to make sure society keeps running on the long run. You're the one who is free riding.
When you retire you'll need young people to produce goods and services you need. Want to have empathetic nurses and doctors when you're sick? Be able to have a walk without being robbed? That depends on your current neighbors and colleagues doing a good job at raising kids.
If lots of other people decided not to have kids like yourself, or just spend less effort on it because they absolutely must take seminar speakers to dinner every week, do you think that's gonna be good on the long run?
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Jesus... Econ researchers are neither researching a cure for cancer nor discovering some deep truths about the universe. Even HRM APs are mostly just proprietary dataset reg monkeys. As opposed to trying the 1000th p-hacking iteration in Stata, society wouldn't even blink if you pause and take time to feed your kid.
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People with kids are making a lot of effort to make sure society keeps running on the long run. You're the one who is free riding.
When you retire you'll need young people to produce goods and services you need. Want to have empathetic nurses and doctors when you're sick? Be able to have a walk without being robbed? That depends on your current neighbors and colleagues doing a good job at raising kids.
If lots of other people decided not to have kids like yourself, or just spend less effort on it because they absolutely must take seminar speakers to dinner every week, do you think that's gonna be good on the long run?Should I remind you (with kids) that I (without kids) probably pay twice as much taxes as you do per dollar of income?
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I hear young APs complaining about work-life balance and how having young kids takes so much time from research. I have news for you. That is a choice YOU made. I might add a good choice. But stop complaining.
If you cannot handle the publication pressure and value your time with your family, go to a lower ranked university. There are so many schools that will allow that kind of lifestyle.
That is called tradeoff, you d!umb a$$!As a now tenured prof who started having kids before completing my dissertation, let me tell you that I agree with this. We made some sacrifices and we're happy with them. My wife quit working once I started my first academic post. She spends lots of time with our kids. We don't have a lot of money, but enough to get by on comfortably. The kids are healthy and happy (so far, thanks to God), and so are we.
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People with kids are making a lot of effort to make sure society keeps running on the long run. You're the one who is free riding.
When you retire you'll need young people to produce goods and services you need. Want to have empathetic nurses and doctors when you're sick? Be able to have a walk without being robbed? That depends on your current neighbors and colleagues doing a good job at raising kids.
If lots of other people decided not to have kids like yourself, or just spend less effort on it because they absolutely must take seminar speakers to dinner every week, do you think that's gonna be good on the long run?Yes, well adjusted children grow up to generate positive externalities. But no one has children for this reason. We have children for our own, fundamentally selfish reasons. If you have kids, you know this deep down. You sacrifice a lot when you become a parent, but gain a lot too. Quit crying.
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This idea is despicable. The absence of decent childcare is not a choice made by individuals.
You have decent child care. It's called "the parents of the child". Unless you are raising a child alone, you are the child care. Get used to it. It's about trade-offs like OP says. Give up bit of cash and prestige to take care of those kids you brought into the world.
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I hear young APs complaining about work-life balance and how having young kids takes so much time from research. I have news for you. That is a choice YOU made. I might add a good choice. But stop complaining.
If you cannot handle the publication pressure and value your time with your family, go to a lower ranked university. There are so many schools that will allow that kind of lifestyle.
That is called tradeoff, you d!umb a$$!, said the asp ie virgin
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Listen. No one gives a flying f*ck about your kids. We do not think they're cute. We do not think they will amount to anything. We could not care less if they were stripped off the earth. There are plenty of people on this planet and your offspring is nothing special. We are already forced to pay taxes for things like school for your child.
This is not to say I discriminate against parents. On the contrary, I think they should do equal work as everyone else. Most parents realize their kids are their own problem. This is for those parents that keep whining about their own poor life choices and ask for more and more special treatment. Remember: No one else gives a sh*t about your kids.
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Yeah having kids is a completely obscure choice, rare in human history. Those freaks should not be represented in society or any positions of influence. Think of how much better things would be if we were governed by only completely normal people who can do without such weird distractions/ biological imperatives.
I don't think OP said it is a bad choice, as you seem to imply here.
I'm quite sure you are OP, that is, 6f07 = 6e2f. No other people on this thread use the word "unpopular". Stop pretending to be a different person and trying to manipulate sort of public opinion. Pathetic.
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So sorry your empathetic genes will not continue and that you will dīe alone.
Listen. No one gives a flying f*ck about your kids. We do not think they're cute. We do not think they will amount to anything. We could not care less if they were stripped off the earth. There are plenty of people on this planet and your offspring is nothing special. We are already forced to pay taxes for things like school for your child.
This is not to say I discriminate against parents. On the contrary, I think they should do equal work as everyone else. Most parents realize their kids are their own problem. This is for those parents that keep whining about their own poor life choices and ask for more and more special treatment. Remember: No one else gives a sh*t about your kids. -
This idea is despicable. The absence of decent childcare is not a choice made by individuals.
You have decent child care. It's called "the parents of the child". Unless you are raising a child alone, you are the child care. Get used to it. It's about trade-offs like OP says. Give up bit of cash and prestige to take care of those kids you brought into the world.
This is 100% correct. Farming your kids out to some minimum wage workers to provide ‘childcare’ (i.e. raise your kids) while you pursue some pointless career is borderline child abuse and we should be moving towards outlawing it, rather than normalising it even further.
If someone said they were planning to get a dog but were working full-time and would need to leave the dog at home alone or put it into daycare 5 days a week then everyone would agree that it is morally wrong to get the dog, since you are giving it a crappy life. But apparently doing this with your own children is somehow acceptable. Absolutely ridiculous
Raise your kids, its much more fulfilling in the long run
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Sorry to break it to you but everyone dies alone. Your kids may grow up to hate you. They may move to a different country and see you once every 2 years. They may be too busy be with you on your death bed. They could die before you. They could die next week. All this after you sacrifice everything to make them happy.
So sorry your empathetic genes will not continue and that you will dīe alone.
Listen. No one gives a flying f*ck about your kids. We do not think they're cute. We do not think they will amount to anything. We could not care less if they were stripped off the earth. There are plenty of people on this planet and your offspring is nothing special. We are already forced to pay taxes for things like school for your child.
This is not to say I discriminate against parents. On the contrary, I think they should do equal work as everyone else. Most parents realize their kids are their own problem. This is for those parents that keep whining about their own poor life choices and ask for more and more special treatment. Remember: No one else gives a sh*t about your kids.