I honestly don't know how anyone stands being poor. If I am poor at the age of 40 I will do what any man of dignity would do, recognize that my life was an absolute failure and commit ritual seppuku.
Wait what's wrong with hating poor people?
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I honestly don't know how anyone stands being poor. If I am poor at the age of 40 I will do what any man of dignity would do, recognize that my life was an absolute failure and commit ritual seppuku.
That's so sad and unnecessary. Not everyone can get out of poverty just by effort. To say an individual has nothing to contribute if they're poor is worse than hating them, it's completely failing humanity.
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While I don't hate the poor, I do agree a little with OP. Intelligence/talent constraints are not binding for most people. People are poor because of bad decisions, lack of discipline and no ambition. Anyone who is not officially retarded has the mental capacity to get a decent, profitable education (i.e. at least learn a trade or sth) and join the lower middle class. This holds for the (european) country where I live, I can't tell how things are like in the US.
The problem might be that nobody tells those people that this is the thing to do, that education etc. is a worthy goal, and that they are f**king losers if they don't make anything out of themselves. It seems to me that - way more than 30 years ago - being a complete failure has become socially acceptable in large parts of society. I see this as a result of a "it's not your fault"-mentality. Another thing is that for whatever reason a lot of people in poor environments seem to think that it is not possible to make something out of themselves, because they don't see anyone around them succeed at it, and so noone even tries. So it is in part a social problem too.
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Intelligence is only partly heriditary and its well known that social structures have a huge impact on social mobility even for the most intelligent people. This is largely effected through access to education - even if youre really smart, you will struggle if you end up in a shitty school full of disruptive students, where it is very hard to learn. Basically, its possible for smart people from poor families to succeed, but they will have to work harder and be luckier than those who were born into less privileged situations.
I know you dont have any real interest in the subject and are just trolling, but if you actually care about the truth then you could do worse than reading this: http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0160289609001524
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What really pisses me off though is when the welfare leech in front of me is eating better than I am based on what they put on the conveyor, and uses their welfare card to pay for their food!
Sure enough, the same welfare leech then gets out to the parking lot to a waiting SUV full of their brood and zooms off while yacking on their iphone screaming at their baby daddies (multiple) to send them money.
You know, it really DOES NOT PAY to work anymore. I'm tired of my hard earned taxpayer dollars going to support that sub-culture and the welfare crowd in this country.
They eat better than I do, they drive better vehicles than I do, hell I don't have an iPHone!!!!! Seems the "poor" in this country are doing better than the so-called "middle class" and "rich!" They aren't working for it!
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OP, I agree with a lot of your sentiments. Buuuuut, it's bullshit to think that hardwork is all you need. Look, I come from a very wealthy backgrounds, most of my friends and family did jack shit until they turned about twenty five. Before then they were dabbling in copious amounts of various drugs, getting drunk most days of the week, smoking cigarettes. After college most of them took Daddy's money to go travelling and even throughout college they scraped the grades they needed.
And then, of course, when they got back from a few years of travelling all that was necessary was one call and they had a job.
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Unless you are super poor you can! I went to public schools until I came to the US. When I was going to college I only had money to buy a sandwich a day and a coffee maybe. Sometimes I could not find that money as well. Now, I am an AP in the US. They do not have to be as successful and hardworking as I am but they can finish undergrad and find a job. I regularly go to Starbucks and be friends with the workers in there. These guys are working crazily and some of them are still getting education. So, don't tell me that this cannot happen. As one of the poor guys who worked his ass off I don't like to listen to the shit that these people are talking about because I just know that they are just lazy. Not everyone is lucky to born rich but they can at least try to be a midclass person and give their children a chance.
I think OP believes that no matter how poor you are you can still pull yourself out of it by working hard.
Oh my, OP. You've opened my eyes. Lions and tigers and bears!
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c283, the fact that you succeeded against all odds doesn't imply that you should blame those who didn't. Exactly as nobody is blamed because is not a football superstar. There are surely people that are simply lazy, but there are others who simply never figured out that they would have been better off going to college; it's quite difficult to realize it if you live in a shitty area, attended shitty schools, and all your peers have shitty jobs; they might just think that's normal. You are an exception (and all the credit goes to you), not the norm.
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OK I might be too harsh on some of them. I just don't like lazy whinny people. Some thinks that having a good salary/life is easy and they just do not see the other side of the coin. I am definitely talking about such people. In any case, I believe that their numbers are not to be underestimated.
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Do you think poor kids from very dysfunctional families have any chance of developing into independent and balanced adults? very small
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