You will always be just best of what's left for her. There are no great memories from your formative years together. No lifelong ties that bind you together. You were "good enough" based on the constraints of a smaller dating pool and a ticking biological clock. And that's it.
Worst part of getting married in 30s: You won't be the love of someone's life
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You will always be just best of what's left for her. There are no great memories from your formative years together. No lifelong ties that bind you together. You were "good enough" based on the constraints of a smaller dating pool and a ticking biological clock. And that's it.
I had to dump my first real gf because she became hyper religious. 15 years later, she’s cycled through two more religions, got divorced, has two kids, and is actively peddling a MLM sc/am.
Marrying your high school sweetheart and having it work out is just luck.
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Also don't get a house in your 30s.
You will clearly prefer the houses you used to have. Your memories from your formative years will make you unhappy with any house you get in your 30s. Admit it, you settled for this house. Not because you love its location and layout and design, but because it's good enough.
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Also don't get a house in your 30s.
You will clearly prefer the houses you used to have. Your memories from your formative years will make you unhappy with any house you get in your 30s. Admit it, you settled for this house. Not because you love its location and layout and design, but because it's good enough.This but not ironically
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Getting married to your HS GF/BF is just a product of random pairings in early life. I'd argue getting married to someone you meet later allows you to sort into groups that have like-minded or like-charactered people.
Counterintuitively, it's the bonds that are forced upon you that are the most durable and meaningful. Self-selected groups are inevitably fleeting and shallow rooted, and only more so as life goes on.
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Also don't get a house in your 30s.
You will clearly prefer the houses you used to have. Your memories from your formative years will make you unhappy with any house you get in your 30s. Admit it, you settled for this house. Not because you love its location and layout and design, but because it's good enough.Because an ostensible "life partner" is analogous to a dwelling. The more you people try to sound clever, the more hor rible you reveal yourselves to be.